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How Worriers Misuse
the Emotional Imagination
by Peter Michaelson
(copyright 2005)
Worriers are allowing their creative capacity to be used against their best interests.
That happens whenever their imagination is engaged in a self-defeating manner.
We all have unresolved
conflicts that cause negative emotions. Through our inner conflicts we can
easily become triggered and feel deprived, helpless, controlled, abandoned,
rejected, and criticized. Our creative capacity or our imagination can
contribute to this process of suffering.
When that happens, we begin
to focus on painful memories from the past, or we embellish upon unpleasant
circumstances in the present, or we make dire speculations and considerations
about the future. When our imagination is entangled in such a way with our
emotions, we call it the emotional imagination.
In psychoanalysis, the
emotional imagination is called the visual drive, which is understood to
mean the creative life force, the symbolic expression of our humanity that
includes our emotional association with images, metaphors, pictures, ideas, and
concepts.
The emotional imagination can
be used either for our pleasure and benefit or for our displeasure and harm.
When we are not conscious enough, our emotional imagination is usurped by the
negativity in our psyche and used for dark or at least for self-defeating
purposes.
A common form of unnecessary
suffering is worrying. Through the emotional imagination we conjure up visions
of worst-case scenarios. It is, of course, irrational. Nonetheless, we convince
ourselves that it is somehow important to think about all the bad things that
could happen any day now.
However, the worrying person,
in creating his grim tomorrows, is cultivating the feeling of being helpless,
deprived, and abandoned right now—in the here-and-now. Of course, many of
the things about which we worry—painfully, sometimes fearfully so—never
happen! That doesn’t matter to our unconscious negative agenda. Because of
our secret willingness to collude in our unresolved negativity, we don’t need
facts or reality to generate negative impressions and consequent suffering.
Often the root of worry is
our compulsion to experience the feeling of helplessness. A person, for
instance, who worries about his children being injured or killed, or about his
house being burglarized or his stock portfolio crashing, can perhaps take a few
precautionary measures. But, ultimately, we have limited control over future
events. The fact of our limited control becomes entangled in our self-doubt or
inner passivity to produce anxiety, worry, and fear. (In past centuries,
superstition and fear of evil forces were earlier forms of worrying.)
Another insidious form of
misusing the emotional imagination involves what one client termed his
“skeet-shoot.” Despite having a college degree and intellectual interests, he
had been working as a waiter for several years. He regularly came up with
plausible ideas for more satisfying and creative work, but within a short time
he had managed in his mind to shoot down these ideas and quickly lose any
enthusiasm for them.
The process of undermining
himself involved, through imagery and speculation, his wholesale production of
possible problems and obstacles in his career path that he felt would be
insurmountable. This “skeet-shooting,” which left him miserable and dejected,
served his unconscious readiness to go on living with himself through a
familiar, painful paradigm, that of being an underachieving individual who
simply did not have the power to carve out his destiny.
Again, this combination of
his inner passivity (meaning his sense of being overwhelmed and thwarted by
obstacles) and his inner critic (which assailed him for being a hopeless dead
duck) left him shattered on the grounds of his shooting range. It was the
feeling he had no more control over his life than the outcome of a movie he was
watching.
To stop misusing our
imagination, we have to become more conscious and inwardly alert. We have to see
the inner games we play that thwart our best interests.
My book, See
Your Way to Self-Esteem, which is available at this website, explains a good
deal of what goes on inside of us when our emotional imagination is limiting our
sense of self and of life. |